5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit Chapter 3

Chapter 3

Quitzilla

For the past 53 day's I've been a SHE QUITZILLA, because I let myself become overwhelmed with fear rather than trust God when Rick and I both became afflicted with ill health.. it made me give up on eating right and instead, I started eating to numb myself and to feel something other than stress & fear.  Now, I get to add feelings of failure and false hunger [thanks to eating too many sugary carbs] .. yay, me! So, lets see what Nicki has to say about quitting...

 What seems impossible is just the peak of a miracle with her God. He’s got more than enough power to overcome any quitting process. And if He is for her, then truly nothing shall stand against her. I don’t want to be a Quitzilla, and I don’t think you do either. It’s time to write new endings to the stories from our past that haunt us. It’s time to learn new patterns so we can begin experiencing victories.

Momentary feelings will always try to convince us to forfeit our faithfulness. (The key here is to know that these hindrances are temporary [hang onto that]; focus on something else, take the time to renew my mind.. to honor God in everything I'm, thinking, saying and doing!!!)

`````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````
I used to think my patterns of defeat came from people saying I couldn’t do something. If I felt the slightest tinge of disbelief from someone when I shared a hope, dream, or plan, I’d quit. I’d also sulk in the misery of quitting if I felt someone could do something better than me. And internally I’d blame that person for my giving up. Bottom line, this is some messed up thinking, right? My feelings have led me away from commitments multiple times. 

Defeat comes from my thoughts and my reactions.
How often am I defeated by my own stinking thinking or the enemy of my soul speaks and I don't recognize his voice like I use too.. he's a thief that comes to steal, kill, and destroy.. who AM I LISTENING TO when I am defeated, fearful, or it's killing me inwardly.. smh!
Usually we are not defeated by what others say or do to us; ultimately we are defeated by what we say and do to ourselves. :(

```````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````

It is never too late for God to change and restore the brokenness in our lives ...ask Him to help us start right NOW [this very minute]!

We have an enemy of our souls whose goal is to kill, steal, and destroy. Satan would love for you and me to believe it’s over and it’s never going to be as we hoped. He may be the initiator of every quitting desire, but we have to own our part in allowing our feelings to control our actions.
Feelings don’t have to be what fuels our faith.

Quitting when we are angry or upset almost always leads to regret.

"...if there’s a sting in your soul, there’s potential for bitterness to be produced."

I need to stop replaying and analyzing events in my head; I’m so bad about hitting the repeat button on what went wrong.
I need to stop replaying and analyzing events in my head; I’m so bad about hitting the repeat button on what went wrong. :)

We are going to have to eliminate these two words “I can’t” from our vocabulary. The moment these two words roll off our tongues, defeat is soon to follow. When we say these two words, “I can’t,” what we are really saying...... is, I don’t feel like it!

We waste a lot of time convincing ourselves of what we can’t do. But God’s Word spends a lot of time telling us (with Him) we can do all things.

Php. 4:13  I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ's sufficiency].
 Isa. 40:29  He gives power to the faint and weary, and to him who has no might He increases strength [causing it to multiply and making it to abound]. [II Cor. 12:9.]
Mat.19:26  But Jesus looked at them and said, With men this is impossible, but all things are possible with God. [Gen. 18:14; Job 42:2.]

5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit Chapter 2

Chapter 2

Refinement Redefined

We often discount what God is doing because we are determined to go our own way.

I've committed to this process of losing weight, and have been playing around with it now for some time [10 lbs up] from the 92 that I'd lost.. well, this line in the book stuck out to me... "We accepted the assignment of refinement. And while quitting this dream was an option, we knew there was more at stake.
Rather than focusing on my failure I need to look at what sounds better [I've still got 80 lbs off]; plus, look at whats at stake, weight gain and diabetes flare ups [infections, etc.].  But, mainly focus on the success of 80 lbs off...

Refinement has so many meanings and definitions. According to the wise Google it means the process of removing impurities or unwanted elements from a substance. SIN!

How we walk through an assignment of refinement may determine our next assignment.
For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is going to be revealed to us. (Rom. 8: 18)
If we quit, we might miss the opportunity to see God work in and through a difficult situation.

Am I desperate enough to become a woman who follows God through an assignment of refinement? With tears in my eyes, I wrestle with these words because some days I’m not really sure.   Maybe this is me towards turning the TV off [the world off] and getting right with God.. putting HIM before everything.. internet, phone calls, people.. books. I know I ought to live, move and have my being in HIM.. The word being.. it's like loving God before all else.. loving HIM with the fullest of heart, mind, & soul.. body, mind and soul. Holding NOTHING back.. I want this assignment, that is, until the TV comes on, the book becomes to hard to put down or some other distraction or hindrance causes a detour ..and none of these are good excuses!  :( God help me focus more and more on YOU and less on these things that are not important!



Thoughts become words. Words become actions. Actions become reality.
When Rick can see absolutely no good in a situation and start speaking “death” over it, I should quote this to both of us.

It was refinement mixed with stress, anxiety, and fear. A quitting formula for sure. It required a transition in my thinking, my prayers, and my belief. I had to make this shift while not knowing the end of the story. This is me for sure with all the stress, anxiety ..I need to set my eyes on the Lord, bring my thoughts, beliefs captive to the Lord!

5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit Chapter 1

Chapter 1

 Assignment Accepted

Habit One: She accepts the assignment of refinement.

Sometimes discouragement is brought on by our own decisions of disobedience.

"..when a woman accepts an assignment of refinement from God. Slowly God chisels away the ugly, the bad, and the even more ugly. And one day she finds herself choosing between what she wants most over what she wants now."

A committed woman learns to choose what she wants most over what she wants now. I can tell when I'm committed -vs- not.. I nibble without trying to stop!

The space between where we are and where we want to be is called potential.
What am I going to do with it.. am I going to obey God or be disobedient by pretending I'm blind [can't see what HE would have me to do]?  Am I going to do the Father's will or keep stuffing my face?
 An assignment of refinement is a situation in life where we are given the opportunity to either go through it or grow through it.

Anytime we see something that has the potential for opposition, it’s always an opportunity for God to reveal Himself.
It's like going to church and not being a bent reed just because people are critical of me..

All those refinement assignments where we feel so much opposition that they make us want to quit. They are indeed an opportunity for God to reveal His power.

I’ve discovered most of the time when we go through a difficult situation, our natural instinct tends to be to flee to the familiar.
Like I did when the stress came from all the medical problems.. it was like food became that which was familiar and I turned right back to it.. and ever since I've been turning to it for everything, being active [going out], financial issues, pain in my body.. etc.
Familiar is Comfortable
Some people find familiarity through retail therapy or vegging on the couch with old movies.
But fleeing to the familiar is risky for a woman who wants to stop quitting. Because victory is often found in the most unfamiliar and uncomfortable places.

Make It Stick
Victory is often found in the most unfamiliar and uncomfortable places.
 A committed woman learns to choose what she wants most over what she wants now.
Opposition is always an opportunity for God to reveal Himself.

To Be Honest
What are a few things on your quit list?
Multiple diets [gaining 75 lbs back 3 times], roller skating lessions, walking or exercise, doing Special Friends.
Where is your “flee to the familiar” place?
Movies and FOOD.. turning to people/phone.
What is an assignment of refinement you are going through or have gone through?
Doing SP right now..